Whether you’re in a long distance relationship or your partner is about to move to another city, relocating to be with them might not turn out the way you hoped it would. Moving for love is always going to be risky, but you should consider every aspect of it before making the move to at least do everything in your power to make it work. This isn’t to say that you should stay put and ignore your heart’s call, but rather ask yourself a number of questions before you make the final decision.
For all of you who are considering to move for love, here’s our list of things you should consider beforehand.
What Does the Future Hold for the Two of You?
Before you buy a one-way ticket to your partner’s current city, think about the future first. Have you two talked about your plans together? Do you see yourself with that person in a couple of years? This isn’t to say that you should put the marriage discussion on the table, that’s irrelevant, but a long-term relationship is something you’d want to talk to your chosen one before moving. If you’re not absolutely sure that you’re both on the same page regarding a relationship, you better just give up and unpack your bags.
It’s important to get in line with your feelings and picture yourself in 3-5 years with your partner in another city. It can be difficult to do this sometimes, but you better do it nevertheless, or you might end up stranded and heartbroken at the same time.
Are You Going to Live Together or Separately?
Living together might seem an obvious choice, but there’s nothing wrong with the latter option either if you both agree to it. In fact, living separately can go a long way to ensure you stay passionate about each other for a longer time, especially since relocating is enough of a step to take already. However, if you do go with living apart, you should know that people might think you’re in a bad relationship. If you don’t care how others perceive you and your relationship (like I don’t), then you shouldn’t be worried at all. Plus, if everything goes downhill, you’ll at least have where to go, since you will have retained some of your independence. On the other side, moving in together will certainly make things easier on your finances.
How do You Feel about the City You’re Moving to?
Being in love can really cloud your judgment, so some locations might seem more attractive to you than they actually are, simply because your love is out there. Well, this is why you need to keep your cool and actually consider whether you like the city or not. Would you want to live there if you were relocating for other reasons? If the answer is no, you might want to cancel your trip and stay put. However, if it’s a city you’ve always dreamed about living in, close your browser, call the removalists and rent an affordable moving box or two to get you on the way.
Do You Have a Backup Plan?
If you’re going to be living in another city, it’s a good idea to have some sort of independence, both financial and residential. The last situation you want to be in if everything goes sour is to be out on the street without a job, having to go back to your original city. This can really put a dent into person’s emotional life, so make sure you’ve got a backup plan in place. I know, no one likes to think about bad scenarios when they’re up in the clouds but ensuring your wellbeing is only a smart thing to do, and won’t negatively affect your relationship in any way.
How much do you like Your Current Life?
It’s only natural to compare your future in another city to the life you currently have where you’re stationed. If you’ve got plenty of friends and the city you’re going to is too far away, is it really worth it to give up on it all? Do you have a job you’re super satisfied with and are you going to be able to find a similar job in the city where your partner is residing? These are all questions you need to ponder on before deciding, and you better think about it a lot or else you might regret it.
Relocating to another city is tough on its own, so doing it for love can sometimes cloud our reasoning and make everything seem perfect, even if it’s not. Questioning yourself about what you want as an individual is extremely important, as well as thinking about your future together with your partner. If everything checks out – then, by all means, pack your bags and go start a new life. However, if you’re having doubts after reading this article, it might be a good idea to sit on it for a while longer.